These 5 Tips to Love the Way you Look are brought to you by Jennifer Mary, owner and flatterista at Apple and Pear Wardrobe Design. If you are hanging out in Creigh~ative Connection, a place where busy moms connect + find balance through creativity, she was the guest expert and answered your wardrobe and styling questions! The following tips are Jennifer's experiences and in her words.
1. Upgrade Your Undergarments
I want to share a true story with you. Yesterday, I held a private shopping event at Loft for members of my group and their guests. Three women came up to me during the course of the event and said they were really unhappy with their bodies. They felt like they used to have smaller waists, and their mid-sections weren't so lumpy. I took them back to the fitting rooms and hiked up their bra straps to show them where their girls SHOULD be sitting. All three women were shocked by how much smaller their waists were, and how much better their clothes looked. I made them all promise to go get a proper bra fitting before they left the mall, and this morning I got an email that said "Thanks to you and the girl at Nordstrom, I look like I lost 15 pounds".
I'm not going to tell you the secret to looking your best is losing weight, because that's pure BS, but getting rid of the frumpy, lumpy, dumpy look the wrong bra gives you IS one of the easiest ways to look more put together. The right bra makes you look taller, younger, and thinner, and makes the clothes you already own look better.
2. Only Buy Things You LOVE
I want to share with the easiest way to create a style that makes you feel fabulous.
Here it is...only buy things you truly love. It's that simple. Don't settle for "well, it's fine" or "eh, good enough". That's the junk that's cluttering up your closet, hiding the gems you have in there, and keeping you from having a unique style.
You might be thinking that you're "just" a jeans and t-shirt mom, so what does it matter? Well, first I think liking the way you look actually makes you a better mom...so there's that. I'm also willing to bet that even if you live in jeans and tees, you have jeans and tees you love, and wear more often. Why aren't ALL the pieces in your closet like that? If you're hanging on to "just fine" because of some post-apocalyptic wardrobe emergency that will require you to have a lifetime supply of "good enough" clothes, you can stop now. It isn't going to happen. Let go of those things and focus on buying and having fewer things that make you smile when you get dressed each morning.
3. One of the best ways to love the way you look is to get properly dressed before you leave the house every day. Listen, I KNOW how easy it is to do the preschool run in your sweats, thinking you'll get dressed later when it "matters". More often than not though, life happens, and we end up in our "just for now" clothes all day. This is why you have a closet full of cute clothes that don't get worn! When you take the time to get properly dressed each morning, you wear the clothes you love, and you feel good about how you look.
I'm not saying you need to be in a dress and heels though--one of my big messages is that dressing well doesn't have to mean dressing up. With the rise of athlesiure and stores like Athleta and Lucy, its easier than ever to look pulled together for the life you actually live. I put clients in comfortable clothes all the time--but they're cute and polished looking, and make my women feel great about themselves.
90% of life is lived in the everyday moments, so why not love the way you look everyday?
4. Get Rid of What's Not Working
Lots of my clients hang on to clothes that aren't working for them because it gives them a sense of security...like they'll have something to wear "just in case". Nothing could be farther from the truth. Closets full of the wrong stuff overwhelm us, and keep us from appreciating the great things we have, and seeing what we truly need.
Earlier this week I talked about only putting IN to your closet things you love, but it's also important to take OUT anything you don't love/wear anymore.
I had a client a couple of weeks ago who told me she had way too many pants, and didn't need to buy any more (or really shop at all). The first part was true--she probably had 40 pairs of dress pants, but in reality she only had 4-5 that fit and flattered, and were right for the season. When we looked at which ones went with shoes she owned, she was down to 2 or 3. Her look was never coming together, and she couldn't figure out why. The problem? She actually NEEDED pants. You'd never have known it by looking in her closet.
Don't fill your closet with "good enough" and don't leave "just in case" in there--both strategies are holding you back from loving the way you look, and from getting dressed easily. If you're looking for charities to donate your clothes that aren't working, Jen supports Free the Girls, LAWS, Western Fairfax Christian Missions, and Women Giving Back.
5. Know What Suits You
This tip is something I've learned in my years of dressing thousands of women. Most clients I work with have plenty of things that look great on them, but they don't know WHY...so when they go shopping, they've got to start the hunt for the proverbial needle in a haystack all over again. You take armloads of stuff into the fitting room, to find one or two that look good. When you know what works for you, you can spot pieces that will work from a mile a way
A few of the things every woman should know:
- Her best colors (chances are it's not black!)
- Her best neckline
- The right length for her tops
- The best cut for dresses/skirts
- The best pant shape
Now, once you have your "best for you's" figured out, it doesn't mean you never try anything outside of those pieces again (otherwise, you're headed for a major style rut), but you WILL build a basic wardrobe of items that look great, and make you feel confident.
If you're looking to build a basic wardrobe for the spring, then you need Jen's Spring Capsule Wardrobe Guide! This ebook shows you 35 must-have pieces to create over 100 stylish, casual outfits. I've personally purchased this guide, and it's extremely helpful. Jen even includes a shopping checklist so you can check off what you already have in your closet and what you need to purchase. Along with her tips, this guide has truly helped me love the way I look!
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